One of my close friends is dating a married man. We both know him and his wife although they aren't apart of our inner circle. It really bothers me and I have told her not to give me any details because it's wrong. I am starting not to trust her as a friend and I really don't want her around my husband. This friendship is going to have to be re-evaluated.

DH's boss pays him late constantly. He's also been promising him a $5/hour raise for over a year now. Between the two of us, DH and I make plenty of money and should be living comfortably. But when his boss goes WEEKS without paying him, it affects us. Suddenly we're juggling bills, late fees are piling up, etc. I have asked DH to talk to his boss many times, but he won't because they're friends. I told DH at some point our family has to come before his friendship. I think he needs to stand up to his boss or find another job. This issue is also affecting our relationship.

Being a loyal friend means being on your friends side and sticking by them. If someone does something horrible to your friend & you decide to seek friendship with that horrible person, then you can't call yourself loyal. By all means, be friends with the horrible person who hasn't done anything to you YET. But saying you're loyal makes you a liar. If horrible person says next time they see your friend, they're going to attack them, then don't expect your friend to hang out with you anymore due to the fear that the horrible person will be there and make due on their threats.

Maybe I'm just too loyal of a friend. If I have a friend who gets attacked (verbally or physically or what have you) by another person when my friend didn't do anything to deserve it, out of respect, I do not become friends with the person who did the attacking. If they both happen to be my friend beforehand, then I usually back away from my friendship with the attacker. If the attacker is willing to do that to a friend of theirs, then it's best if I end the friendship before I become the next target. I care about my friends, I always have their backs.

male and female just friends? sure. it's the hiding of the friendship that is an issue.

I don't think a married person should have friendships with the opposite sex. Call me old fashion but I say it just makes for trouble. I'm friendly with DH's friends and I do enjoy when we're all together but they're not my friends. I also think it's very inappropriate for a married person to be alone with the opposite sex. I don't think anything will necessarily happen, I just think it's disrespectful to their spouse.

I can't have friendships with men without it eventually turning into shameless flirting and borderline emotional affairs. I don't know what's wrong with me.

My BFF is seeing a married man. Having been happily married for 12 years, I have so much trouble respecting her and her lover, because I can't help but feel for the betrayed wife. I feel like a horrible friend because frankly, I can't help but judge her as a homewrecker, even though I know in real life, it's never black and white but is instead shades of gray. This might just cost me a friendship of 20 years.

I love coming here. Thank you ladies (& guys) for being better friends to me than my 'real life' ones. I appreciate your humor, opinions, insights, support & yes, friendship. Facebook has nothing on Truu!!

I came onto my friends' husband at the bar last weekend. I was drunk, but that's no real excuse because I've been attracted to him since we first met. He was very kind and didn't shut me down hard, but he did refuse. I'm so humiliated. My friend hasn't spoken to me since, though I've been too embarrassed to contact her, so I have no idea what she knows. Why am I so stupid and horny when I'm drunk!? I have tried SO HARD to be good and control myself around him. Not just for my marriage and hers, but for our friendship. I'm a shitty wife and a shitty friend and an all-around shitty person.