I love my DH and am fine with our marriage, but if something happened I wouldn't marry again. I used to be all for marriage, but I don't see much use for it anymore. I see men being used for money by their cold wives who only care about kids, and women being stuck with all the childcare, neglected by cheating husbands who have checked out. Seems like no one really benefits. Everyone puts so much into a marriage, but most I know end up divorced. It's too hard.

So apparently because I am a SAHM, it is my job to do everything around the house (including picking up after dh), house maintenece, yard maintenence, car maintenence and childcare (including all school stuff, activities, doctors appts etc), shopping and cooking and all DH has to do is pay the bills and lay down and get laid? I don't think so. I am not a servant, I am your wife. The least you can do is pick up after yourself.

I wouldn't date a man with kids either, esp small ones: most are just looking for a replacement maid and childcare giver so they don't have to do anything anymore but sit on their lazy butts. They don't want to be bothered with the "woman's job". A guy tried hard to get me to be his new maid/mommy. Yeah right!

DH and I both work and go to school full-time. When I got this job, DH promised to share chores and childcare. That lasted all of 2 weeks. I'm beginning to realize I need to give up on him ever changing. It's been almost a year, with counseling, and I told him when we began that I wouldn't spend another 5 yrs like the last ones. With a heavy heart, I make my plan for a future without him.

I can't wait to leave him. Once my childcare situation is resolved he's out of here. I can't believe I wasted years of my life on this fool. And it's my fault. He was a freaking idiot from day 1.

My sister is upset with me. Why? Because she was saying that she and her husband would love to see the new James Bond film, except they've needed to lean on grandma for childcare quite a bit lately and don't feel like they can ask her to watch them for a non-emergency event. And my crime? Asking her why she doesn't find a baby sitter so she and her husband can enjoy more freedom. Apparently, the mere suggestion that she actually pay someone to watch her kids was an insult-- even though she and I BOTH used to babysit as teens and loved to do it!

In reading about all the people who want sister wives, it's clear that it's gotten so bad with men not doing their part that women would be willing to share them sexually just to get a break from childcare and cleaning. Man...

DH made a comment that maybe I should be a SAHM. HELL NO. I did NOT spend years getting multiple degrees for nothing. I make more then enough to cover all bills and childcare. Even if I didn't I would work just to pay for child care. I am very afraid of losing my identity and my career is a large part of who I am. I told him that if he didn't know that after 11 years we have a problem. He said he knows and knew when he married me I would never go for that. He is so cheap he would be begging me to go back to work anyways.

My DH gets to go on a 10 day business trip overseas. He asked if I wanted to use his points and fly there for four days. YES! After I arrange childcare, he starts in on the reasons why I shouldn't go. (Jet lag, too expensive). You know what, it was YOUR idea and now you don't want it. OK, this time I'm not going to fight you and have you realize later it WAS a good idea. I'm tired of the games and not going to go. FU

Mom I know you dont owe me childcare or anything and I truly appreciate all the help you have been with my kids thru all my apptmts and stuff. You kept them today so I could have a kid-free errand day too and believe me I loved it and you for doing it. You dont have to lie to me though to get out of watching them for a day--you already told me you were going to postpone your thing on Monday so you could keep them and now you tell me that you just found out about the thing on Monday. I wont get upset if you just tell me you dont want to do it. I feel bad now that you felt you need to lie