I sometimes wonder, are step kids 1&2 really DH's? They look nothing like DH, like the other 2 full siblings or like our kids. Bio mom supposedly did a DNA test years ago,but refuses to show anyone the results. 1/2 of DH family doubts as well.

When I was seven I told my father that my mother was cheating on him. I saw her making out with a man. Since then she has tried to isolate me and break me. She hates everyone who likes me and everything I love. My career, my children, my husband and the one sibling who has stayed close to me despite her efforts to alienate me from the family. A few days ago she was diagnosed with alzheimer's. I asked her, one last time, if she was going to make peace with what happened. She said no. I need to accept the fact that my mother hated me until the end. It hurts, now more than ever.

When I was young I always told my mom that my older sister was treated better/more special by everyone (parents, granparents, relatives, etc.) because she was first and that made it a bit more special to everyone. My mom always said I was lying and did not believe me. Now I have kids of my own, have seen my husband's family and inlaws kids and have seen my siblings and friends have kids it is official and kind of obvious. The first kid is always the golden child and based on being born first they hit all the milestones first.

Wow, way to make your child not only hate you, but resent her new sibling too. Not a good move at all mom. At age 4 no child has well developed emotional control. Not to mention limited a vocabulary. Good way to stunt any emotional growth, not to mention she just learned that she can't look to you for help, support or guidance. She learned that if she expresses her feelings, she gets hurt. Oh, and that Santa hates her.

I don't believe I have any half siblings, but if I found out I did I wouldn't have any interest in finding them. Biologically connected doesn't mean anything to me. I don't see how some stranger having some similar DNA matters in my life. I love my family that I grew up with!

My husband and have children only with each other. The same with his and mine parents, grandparents, and grandparents before that. Also true for all our siblings and cousins. Is that odd? I never realized it might be.

Kids not meeting half siblings is common. Why? If one parent refuses,well they won't meet. This is why my kids haven't met thier brothers,thier mother says no. Pretty simple really.

I don't get how children/people don't know their half siblings. I mean my step kids are at my house all the time with their half siblings. We even do things together with ex where all the kids are together. Makes no sense to me. Unless they are love children who are in their 50's.

I'm adopted and know I have other siblings out there. Don't care. I have my own family, and they probably have theirs. I'd be highly irritated if they tried to "find" me. No thanks. I like my life as it is. Besides, I have my hands full with my real parents & family and in-laws! I'm not sure why some people think I'm selfish, but they need to get over it.

I have a birth mom who has other children. No interest in meeting them. I owe her nothing, and I have my own family to deal with. That's a handful in in itself! If she tried to reach out, I'd probably just ignore it. No point IMO. My real family is my mom, dad, and siblings.