I posted over the summer, when my daughter was a newborn, that I thought having a baby ruined our marriage. (Not that I was blaming the baby by any means). Things have gotten a lot better. She'll be 9 months old at the end of the month and things are much, much better.

Pet Peeve 178:, if you are not the mother or father to a Newborn baby, or any baby for that matter....YOU DO NOT HAVE A RIGHT TO KISS THEM ON THE MOUTH! My great Aunt feels she has the right to kiss babies on the mouth. Not just once, several times. She hovers her lips over the baby's mouth. I WONT let her.I have told her everytime with my new baby, she is not to kiss baby on the mouth! That's gross!!! And I DONT care if its rude on my part!!

Messy house, colicky newborn, baby's now got a fever, no help and the other three are out of control. I am ready to just kill myself. I can't take the stress and crying anymore.

since my dd became ill in nov, she is up at night alot in pain. when i hear her I go & lie w-her, soothe her back to sleep. before i do, i put a heating pad in my bed so that when I get back to it, it is warm & comforting. Helps so much! I read one mom put a heat pad in her newborn crib to warm it before baby slept, remove it, put baby down, baby slept much better than being in a cold crib. it really does help me fall back asleep faster.

My sister and brother-in-law just had their first baby. They often complained to my husband and I that we let the grandparents intrude too much with our child. THEY wanted to be left alone. Well, now their baby is here, and all they can do is whine about how no one told them it would be this hard! Sister-in-law blogged that she can't believe no one even tried to tell her she would need help with a newborn! I told her every chance I got that she would want someone at the house to help out, to take our Mother-in-law's offer of help, and she just flat out refused that she'd need it! TOLD YOU SO!

I had one child because I had the foresight to see that having a child was hard,frustrating,tiring and sometimes expensive, work once they begin walking and talking. While I don't regret having my child, I didn't deliberately make my life harder by having more than I could handle. A baby is cute and pretty but that stage only lasts a year. If more people thought beyond the newborn stage we would have a lot less frazzled, broke and tired, worn out mothers.

its 7 pm and the first time ive been able to sit down and eat something today. Of course the second i sit the newborn starts crying and the two year old tells me he pooped. FML

Ex mil used to tell my newborn ds at them time " oooh poor baby!!! Your mommy doesn't want to give you tit!" ....bitch. If you only KNEW that I couldn't because he didn't latch and I wasn't producing any milk at all. I'd just smile at her and bottle feed him. When she asked to hold him and feed him, I'd say no. :) take that. My son loves me and he's very attached to me.

I had postpartum depression and no one really took me seriously when I said I needed help. Now I make a point to look new moms in the eye when I tell them to PLEASE let me know if they need help. No matter what time of night, I will drive to their house and rock that screaming baby or whatever they need. Only one mom has ever taken me up on that offer, but I was so glad to help. Those were the worst months of my life, when my DD was a newborn. I wouldn't wish those feelings on my worst enemy.

I love how the answer when struggling with a newborn is to just "let others blah blah blah". Tell me, where does one find these magical "others"? They sure as hell weren't around when I had mine.