When I was going through fertility treatments, I didn't talk about it to strangers unless they asked. But I did find it rude when people would ask "Why don't you adopt?" when it was OBVIOUS that I had already decided to do fertility treatments isntead. Did they really think I hadn't considered adoption, or that a TON of people hadn't already suggested it? I. had. decided. to. try. to. conceive. My reasons were private.

The 'purpose' of sex is what you make of it. That's why birth control was created to further reinforce that idea. So women can finally control their fertility, So women can actually consent to sex but not particularly to pregnancy.

I grew up with my mom being all weird about anything to do with sex and bodies, I educated myself along the way, read voraciously about the science of how fertility works, for instance, and human sexuality. I'm totally comfortable with being an animal - an animal with self-control. Recently I was reminded about my mom's hangups when she worriedly mentioned that DD had been 'trying to look at her privates' while on the potty. Really mom, how could she NOT be interested in what's down there? What on earth is wrong with that? But yeah, that's how I grew up.

My mom always says that women are in control of fertility. She says if a woman wants another kid, and a man doesn't, it's not really up to the man. WFT mom? That's all kinds of fucked up.

Our first son was a total surprise.I have pcos and didnt think I could get pregnant w/o "help".Fastforward to us trying for #2 when we did need help, the fertility doctor told us that our first was a "fluke" and he doesnt know how it happened. Turns out we are both broken.I think the fact that a fertility doctor called my son a fluke was really insensitive. How about a miracle?

The bunnies,baskets and eggs (The name easter) are all from the spring pagan fertility celebration. palm sunday, good friday, Lent (passover) are all Christian.

DH & I met when we were 18. We got engaged on the 1 yr anniversary of the day we met & got married exactly a year later on our 2 yr anniversary. When I didn’t get pregnant we thought it wasn’t meant to be so we never took fertility drugs or did IUI or IVF. We will be 37 this year. 6 wks ago I went to the doctor for what I thought was the flu & found out I was pregnant. Today was the first ultrasound. It’s non-identical triplets (3 separate sacs). Apparently the odds of this happening without fertility treatments are 25000 to 1 (not counting my age) We’re shocked, happy & terrified all at once.

Anyone who counts days to find their getting pregnant 'danger zone' without looking for other signs of fertility (like cervical mucus) is in for trouble.

My best friend and I have been friends for 7 years despite the fact that she wants a baby as desperately as I don't. I earn almost 3 times as much as she does a year and that's never been an issue until now. Her and her husband have been undergoing every fertility treatment imaginable in the last 3 years with no luck. They're now over $20,000 in debt and last week she came over asking for a loan to continue treatments. I refused knowing I'd never see that money again if I agreed to a loan. I will never understand people willing to go into debt to have a baby.

When I was 18, I was "dating" a 32yo married man. I got pregnant. He and his wife were having fertility problems. He convinced me to let them raise the baby ..... it was the right thing to do at the time,, it really was. But now, 12 years later, I am done university, financially secure, a great job, a great DH and I am filled with regret.