Three weeks ago my husband confessed to sleeping with another woman, on two separate occasions a year apart, when drunk. Different women. Not an affair. He promised to stop drinking, promised to stop going out. Promised to make time for us. 3 weeks on, he is still drinking (at home, but still), is making plans to go out with friends soon. None with me.. He's acting like nothing happened. He gets annoyed when I bring it up. I'm an idiot.

Strange things I think about - if DH and my BFF had an affair, the betrayal from my DH would hurt the most. We made promises to each other, we have a family, etc. However, I am fairly certain that I would be able to move on after a while and find someone else to love romantically and sexually. But I could never ever replace my BFF of 30 years!

I really don't understand how people stay together after an affair. Isn't it always in the back of your mind? Every time he's late coming home don't you wonder if he's cheating again? How can you forgive all the lies they told you? I've never been in that position but I just can't wrap my head around how someone could forgive an affair.

Ignorant: Lacking knowledge, information, or awareness about something in particular. I have a bachelor's degree and a graduate certificate in my field of study and I am well-read. But I ignorant of physics, astronomy, plumbing, foreign affairs, many different languages and cultures, etc. etc. There is nothing at all wrong with being ignorant. We all are, in different ways.

Started a new job a few months ago and my office is in the same building as an Army Recruiting Centre, some ROTC offices and several branches of Veterans Affairs. I don't think I have yet to open the door between the lobby/outside myself or not have the elevator held for me or not have the elevator door held open so that I can exit first. I do not feel, in the least bit, like any of these men think that I am incapable of doing these things myself. It is really nice!

I wish I felt worse about having an affair because maybe then I'd stop.

My husband's dick is huge. The guy I'm having an affair with is rather small. I guess the affair isn't just about the sex after all.

I really don't understand some ppl. my ex best friend stopped talking to me for no apparent reason a number of years ago, won't add me on fb, had mutual friends disown me as well. I did nothing to her. But she still talks to a mutual friend, who betrayed her and had an affair with her (now ex)bf. why be friends with her after her betrayal, but not me when i did nothing to her? i miss our friendship.

When I was 10 and 11, my stepdad was having an affair with the woman of the couple that him and my mom were best friends with. How do I know? Because he would take me and my little brother to her house and make me watch all the kids while him and the woman went in the bedroom and closed the door. I tried to tell my mom more than once and she said I was making it up. She found out the truth when I was 12.

An affair is an absolute deal breaker for me. All the time and counseling in the world would not help, and my lack of forgiveness would make us both miserable. Probably forever. Better to go our separate ways and have a chance at happiness.