Talked with my pastor and sunday school teacher about all the infidelity in our marriage. they are both really sweet men and very serious about the reletionship with Christ and even they admited I need to leave him. I am so scare when he gets homw we are going to have a serious talk

My husband is in Iraq. He works with women only 95% of the time in his profession. I constantly worry about infidelity...more than his being killed in action. I think if I had to choose between the heartache of his being unfaithful, falling in love with someone else, and divorce or his being KIA while remaining true to our vows, I would choose for him to be KIA. Either would be devestating, but at least with one he isn't purposefully tearing my heart from my chest and stomping on it while betraying my trust.

I am the lady with the savings account "just in case". I adore my husband and he is the light of my life. If anything were to ever happen to us I would be devastated.We've been together 11 years and married for almost 10. He is my best friend, my lover, the father of my kids. That being said, I will not stand for infidelity, in a war zone or not. Either you love me enough to be faithful or you don't. I know my worth. I know I am faithful and always have been. I expect no less from you. If you don't respect me enough to be true to me, then I don't need you as much as I think I do.

Yes, spouses CAN drive you to cheat! I know, cause my husband did *exactly* that! He controlled every part of me and OUR life: money, time spent away from him, the car, not watching the kids so I could have "me time" he even went and took my cell phone away (or would snoop through it). I got tired of his shit and found another guy, a *wonderful* man. The man of my dreams. He allows me to have me time, to be myself, isn't controlling, helps out around the house etc. Judge all you want, ladies, but until you've been in my situation you have *no* idea the "whys" behind infidelity.

I married the best man ever. He's a completely involved family man, amazing at home projects, makes me schedule my girls night out to give me a break, brings me flowers "just because", compliments me often and loves me unconditionally and more than I've ever been loved before. So why is it that I still can't let go of that hurt from the infidelity 9 years ago? He's not that boy anymore. He has proven himself over and over since then. I suck.

After hearing rumors of infidelity, I'm sick to my stomach. Whats worse, is I strongly feel there is some truth to it.