Cutest little girl was in front of us at the grocery store today. My DH was still in his uniform and the little girl came up to him and asked if she could shake his hand. After he did she came to me and asked if we were married. I said yes and she turned back around to her dad and said "I hope I get to marry a super hero like her, Daddy." MELT MY HEART! My DH got a little teary eyed when we got back to the car, she really made him feel great. Those are the only opinins that matter, not those that hate on the military. Bless that little girls heart!

I saw an old hs friend of mine at the Commissary and said a happy hello to her with my husband. She did the whole sorry ass goo-goo flirty eyes schtick at him. I am a shy person and she's always been this way. If I didn't know her, I'd say this behavior is the reason why some wives are taken aback by women in the military. She has about three kids and would still act that way to my husband, a stranger, and me, her old buddy.

It does not matter how you put it, if you aren't the active duty military personnel then you aren't in the military. Military spouses are not in the military. I would laugh at a wife is she said because she is a doctor's wife then they are both doctors. The same falls for military spouses. If you aren't working directly for the military as a soldier, etc then you are not in the military, it is that simple. You can say all you want that you live the lifestyle, but that does not equal the job. Make your own accomplishments and full fill your dreams rather than live under the cloud of the spouse

I wonder if more military men cheat than those who don't. Seems to me most of them do.

I really feel sorry for your husband. He is much younger than you. Took in your three kids, and got you pregnant. Eeeks! All you do is complain about the military (you know it's pointless since your exhusband was also military) and act like this is your first pregnancy. I give this marriage 2 years, if that.

I think an military wife of 20 years knows and is a part of military life a hell of a lot more than some servicemember that served one enlistment and got out healthy as can be.

A long time ago I was diagnosed with PCOS by doctors who tested me for it. Lately the cysts have been getting larger than average, causing excruciating pain. I had to go to the OBGYN on base (1st time seeing military OB). From the moment he came in, he tried to convince me I don't have PCOS. He didn't do an exam,sat 5ft away from me, & had no medical paperwork on me. If he said "I'd like to test you to make sure" I'd be okay with it. I didn't go back. Not going to a doctor I don't trust. What a quack.

Husband and I are still married, but separated, not legally separated though. He has been keeping the kids from me. I haven't seen our 2 sons in almost 9 months. Eventually we will have to get a divorce. I really miss my kids and want to see them! How can he do this to me? And how can the military just stand there and let him do this? So, dear Army, I have no rights? Eventually my husband will pick up the phone to talk to me, won't he? I mean, he'll have to contact me somehow to be able to file for divorce and serve me with papers.

It frustrates me that some women will divorce their husbands "because the war changed him." I married DH knowing he's in the military, knowing he's deploying, and understanding that yeah, he's going to come back a different man. I love him, he's my husband, and as his wife, it is my job to help him stay centered and grounded and to do my best to help him through whatever demons he acquires. And to just be damn supportive if nothing else helps.

Any woman affiliated with the military gets a bad rap. The wives are all catty, fat, jealous bitches who sleep around when their husbands are gone and the female service members are all lazy, whiny, self-entitled, whores that sleep around with everyone they work with. We all lose. It would at least be nice if women would take the time to get to know the women on the 'other side'. Especially if you know the stereotypes about you aren't true, that means they probably aren't true for her either.