I made a deal with DH when we were married. I will never turn him down for sex. However, the level of enthusiasm will mirror the way he is treating me. So if tells me I am beautiful for no reason, and folds the socks, There will wild times. But if he treats me inconsideratly, I will give nothing more than the minimal amount of energy I have to give to honor his requests and get the job done. We have a great relationship, and very rarely have I given just the minimum. Not for everyone, but it works for us. thanks for that tip gramma!