Dear step-dad of DH.... please, for the love of all that is holy, if you are not going to wash your hands after using the bathroom, do NOT stick your hands in the bowl with the finger foods in it. We don't want any of your nastiness going into our systems. Stop coming to the dinner table with your filth--and before I get flamed, we know he doesn't wash because right after the flush, the door opens...and if we go in after him, the sink is completely dry. DH just doesn't have the balls to tell him anything.