Dh is on his third deployment. The kids are now older, two are teens. Late last night, around 9:30, two of ds14's friends stopped by the house unexpectedly. They rang the bell and of course I'm walking to the door with my heart pounding. I was relieved it was just ds' friends. But WTF? Their parents know my dh is deployed. They know my dh is deployed. CALL before you come over dammit!