dh deployed today. non-mil friend asked how the day was going. Ds 14 slept in til 1pm, dd-9 went out to birthday shop with mil, dd 12 is watching football with me as we knit/crochet, and dd 10 is down hanging with her bff (aka a normal winter non-school day). Friend was actually offended that the kids and I weren't bawling in a heap on the floor. Yes, we are sad. This is how we deal with it. Get over it.