I've lost my sex drive, hopefully due to putting on weight. I haven't told anyone, except my doctor and my partner, who is very patient (2 years since we did it). I'm losing weight, and hopefully the sex drive will come back. I don't want to try testosterone because it increases the chance of getting prostate cancer. If it doesn't come back, it's curtains for my relationship, which is a shame because I will officially regret being born, a feeling I had before she came along.