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Q:MODS: occasionally a topic will have been "moved to the blog". Where is said blog? You mentioned in your last AskaMod that (for example) the CF debate was being moved to the blog, where can I read these topics?
A: If you look at the top right hand corner of the page there should be a link that says blog. You can also access it by going to the very middle of the page (right now it says ?“Mom, I’m fat.”) Or you can access it through Ask a Mod. Just look below this post for all the other blogs.
Topics that have already been moved to the blog don’t get a new blog. Otherwise all I’d ever write about would be breast feeding. Just find the blog that belongs to your topic and continue the debate in the comments.
Q:MODS, couldn´t You change Editor´s Picks more often? Some stay up for weeks- or so it seems. Thanks.
A: I change them Monday, Wednesday and Friday.
Q:MODS, it irks me when I see a confession, like ### and ### in the singles when they belong in the body section. Isn´t that why we have different sections? It´s also easier to keep track of confessions if they are in the right section, don´t You think? Thanks.
A: I have no way to move confessions to their appropriate board. Also, these channels have become a community for some. A person might be confessing something that they want a specific users to see. There’s room for crossover. If the post doesn’t violate the rules, it goes through.
Q:MODS: how come other people who end their confession with a question here on the singles section get published (like user, also talk, and ###), while mine didn´t? It was the one about details. Seems unfair to me.
A: Talk of the day is the one post a day per channel where we allow advice seeking confessions. The other posts your referring to were talks of the day on prior days. A question mark isn’t always grounds for “advice seeking confession” sometimes their just rhetorical questions. In singles we see a lot of “why won’t he just love me?” or “why do I do this to myself.” I don’t consider those to be rhetorical questions. Now if they post “I do this, this this this and this, what else could I do to make him love me?” it would be asking for advice.
Your post has also been made into a Talk of the Day.
Q:MODS: users user1 and user2 are usually VERY rude in their comments. They are probably not breaking any truu rules, but shouldn´t they at least have a little common curtesy towards others? It makes me sad for the confessor most every time I read their comments. Maybe You could have a word with them at least? Thanks.
A: I’m sorry, unless they are actually breaking rules the mods don’t get involved. I agree, everyone should be nice and polite in the comments. My suggestion, don’t give them the attention they’re seeking by being rude. Other than flagging an illegal comment, just continue on like it’s not there. Don’t react to it, don’t acknowledge it. Don’t say “OMG, how could you say such and such,” and most importantly don’t argue with them. Just comment on the actual confession like they didn’t type a single word.
Q:MODS why won't you post my conqfessIon about being just married and having sex problems? I've tried twice. Others post questions all the time and sometimes they are even featured. I could really use some anonymous input as this isn't easy to talk about with friends. Thanks.
A: Truu doesn’t post advice seeking confessions with the exception of the talk of the day. One confession per channel per day (not counting weekends) can request advice.
Q:Mods- Post 111705 is a direct personal attack against another poster. Please keep your word and ban this person.
A: Done. Truu users, let me remind it, if you attack another user on this site anonymously we have NO way to send you warnings. We don’t have your email, we don’t have your user name. All we have is the IP address, and even that I have to ask the tech guy to do whatever it is he does to them to make it to where it can’t come back.
Q:MODS; I thought the CF talk was moved and yet the wife section has several confessions about that very topic, like ###?BORING!!!!
A: CF confessions have been banned on the mom’s board (not confessions FROM childfree people, just confessions saying CF is better/worse/or comparing the two in any fashion) The CF debate was moved to the blog on all channels for a few days, but the wife board is a CF safe haven, just like the mom board is a Non child free safe haven. You can be a wife and not be a mother.
Q:MODS- Please do not post graphic descriptions of rape here!!!!!
A: I’ll never post a graphic account. So long as the actual ACT isn’t described in explicit detail (and by explicit I mean VERY detailed, not just a general I was raped in this position or forced to do this act) it’s not breaking any rules.
Q:MODS - why can we confess anonymously but not comment anonymously? My apologies if this has been covered previously.
A: It’s just the way the site is set up. It’s likely to stay that way because we don’t really have a way of policing comments without looking up the screen name. Plus as mean as people are in their anonymous response posts that we DO moderate, we’re not likely to do something that puts them out of sight.
Q:MODS: on the Ask a Mod blogs, I would like you to consider leaving out questions such as: Q: confession ##### is a response to CONFESSIONDELETED. I know you are showing you are active in your deletions, but it really provides nothing substantial. Just a thought & thanks for your hard work!
A: Thank you for your feedback. From now on I think I’m just going to use the words user, details, and ### to signify where changes were made. That won’t be as jarring. I need the person who asked the question to be able to recognize their question without pointing at someone else's confession.
Q:Is it my imagination or are we getting a bunch of English as a second language posts today? (of course the mods won't let this to thru)
A: Of course not. Because you’re responding to specific confessions. I’m not entirely sure what confessions you’re talking about, but it’s a response none the less.
Q:Mods: Can you Please move the cologne/perfume thread over to the blog? SICK OF SEEING IT!
A: It died out on its own, but given that it was a brand new topic, I wasn’t inclined to move it to the blog while so many old topics were generating more response posts.
Q:Mods: ### is a blatant response. so sick of this debate!
A: Actually it’s not. It’s another post on the same topic. That doesn’t make it a response.
Q:MODS: What is your position on SOPA/PIPA?
A: I’m against it. I’m thrilled it didn’t pass and hope that it doesn’t pass in the future.
Q:I confess I think truudads was deleted for no good reason. And I wonder why the modswon't tell us why or why not it isn't coming back. I feel like someone in power got pissed off and wants to punish the men.
A: The mods aren’t telling you because the mods don’t know. Truu dads wasn’t around when I started working here a year ago, and it wasn’t around for a LONG time before that. I can speculate that it isn’t coming back because this is a website designed by women for women to have a safe place to vent ABOUT their husbands. But in truth I have no idea. I’ve forwarded your request to Romi. It is completely out of my hands now.
Q:mods i'm curious. when somebody tells you that a certain post is a response post, do you take the time to read it to determine that it is, in fact, a response post? b/c anybody could tell you "confession whatevernumber is a response post" when it might not be.
A: Yes I do. If I read it, and the original confession and see that it is without question a response I remove it. Otherwise it stays.
Q:mods: why didn't my confession about being too scared to post my real confessions get posted? Because it made you look bad? Shocking.
A: Posts about the actual website aren’t confessions, they’re feedback. I appreciate your concern about IP addresses, but it’s not a shocking or underhanded ability of this website to find them. Start a word press blog and look in stats. You’ll be able to see every IP address that has ever visited your site, and how they found you. At least on truu I have to contact our tech guy to have him do anything with your IP address, like ban it from the site. I don’t know what else he can find out about you with it because the extend of my skills with IP addresses is looking at them and going “Ooh, lot’s of numbers.” Your identity is 100% safe from me. Could someone with more knowledge learn more? I assume that a tech savy person could pretty much do anything if given the right materials. But they’d have to go through me to access it, and right now the back end of the site can only be accessed by three people. Me, who is no threat to you, Romi, who, lets face it, has way better things to do then try to find someones identity, and our tech guy, who has absolutely no inclination to track down the identity of some random user who is violating the rules on this website.
Q:Is profanity not allowed here? I see it all the time But my posts keep getting removed. I think the mods just hate me, lol.
A: Profanity is allowed in small doses. I don’t hate you, lol. I don’t even know which user you are. If your posts are being removed after they’re published that means that enough users are flagging them to have them removed. Truu is a user driven site, so if enough people find the post offensive, the site automatically moves in their favor.
Q:Shut up about Breastfeeding already. Good lord are the Mods on vacation?
A: I wish :) vacations are nice. I’ve moved the debate to the blog three times in the last three weeks. I can’t keep it there indefinitely and it keeps coming back. Want to move on? Don’t respond to them. Don’t post your opinion on the debate. Don’t acknowledge it in any way. Let the new people who haven’t debated this topic to death debate it amongst themselves without adding fuel to the fire. Eventually they’ll be veteran truubies and be tired of talking about it themselves.
Q:MODS: omg, every other post is breastfeeding. Make it stop, make it stop!!!!!
A: See above
Q:Mods: in confession ### user, a commenter calls me a details nazi because I didn't get on the hate wagon for the op. I've asked before for comments regarding the term nazi to stop, but the Americans here seem to think it's acceptable. I doubt they'd feel the same if we tossed the term 911 terrorist so casually.
A: I’ve removed that comment and sent a warning to that user. Be aware that without you coming to us and telling us about the comment we don’t see it. Comments are not moderated. I try to limit the confessions that go through using not just the term nazi, but also gay (used as an insult), and retarded. Let me know if I miss any.
Q:Mods: the breastfeeding posts are just too much! Can we please stop them?
A: See above
Q:MODS every week there is a question sent in regarding all the breastfeeding/formula feeding "confessions" that get sent in. Every week you respond with something along the lines of "if it still going on on Monday, it will be moved to the blog." It never seems to happen.Seems like AT LEAST every other page (if not every page) there is STILL a confession regarding breastsfeeding/formula feeding. Can't we just be DONE with them completly??!?
A:I can’t stop it forever. Breast feeding and formula feeding are part of being a mom, and this is the mom board. I can put a stop to it for a few days every few days, but the best way to stop this lies on the users. If you guys stop responding to it, it will stop.
Q:Fuck you MODS. Seriously. Fuck you all so hard, you pieces of SHIT.
A: *blinks* Moving right along...
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